Wedding Songs – Bollywood Edition

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You have been on YouTube all day researching what song you would like for your different entrances.  Some brides want it slow and romantic, while others love the sound of the drums.  You also may have to consider songs for your Same/Next Day Edit.  So much thinking behind weddings right?

Here are some The Ultimate Affair Favourites

  1. Bahara – I Hate Luv Stories
  2. Sajde – Khatta Meetha
  3. Tu Jaane Na – Ajab Prem Ki Ghazab Kahani
  4. Tere Ore – Singh is King
  5. Peen Loon – Once Upon a Time in Mumbai
  6. Naina – Chandi Chowk to China
  7. Bol Na Halke – Jhoom Baraber
  8. Saathiya – Shingham
  9. Sab Rishte Naathe – De Dana Dan
  10. Aaj Din Chadeya
  11. Rola Pe Gaya – Patiala House
  12. O Bekhabar – Action Replay
  13. Saiyaan – Kailash Kher
  14. Maula Maula Re – Shinghaam
  15. Saj Dhaj Ke – Mausam
  16. Rab mein Toh – Mausam
  17. Aada Ishq – Band Baaja Baraat
  18. Isq Rsk – Mere Brother Ki Dulhaan
  19. Hona Tha Pyaar – Bol
  20. Mein Waari Jawaan – Tere Naal Love Ho Gaya
  21. Ishq Sufiyaana – Dirty Picture
  22. Sajda – My Name is Khan
  23. Tere Justajoo – Shor in the City
  24. Tu Hi Mera – Jannat 2
  25. I love you – Body Guard
  26. Heer – Jab Taak Hai Jaan
  27. Dhoka Dhadi – R… Rajkumar
  28. Mast Magan – 2 States
  29. Love Me Thoda Aur – Yaariyan
  30. Chaandaniya – 2 States
  31. Manwa Laage – Happy New Year
  32. Tum Hi Ho – Aashiqui 2
  33. Kabhi Jo Badal – Jackpot
  34. Mera Mann – Nautanki Saala
  35. Raabta – Agent Vinod
  36. Kabira – Yeh Jawaani Hai Deewani
  37. Titli – Chennai Express
  38. Tose Naina – Mickey Virus
  39. Phir Le Aaya Dil – Barfi
  40. Hamari Adhuri Kahani – Hamari Adhuri Kahani
  41. Chaar Kadam – PK

 

Vendor Spotlight: OOTTUM FINE PHOTOGRAPHY

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Meet the team from OOTTUM Fine Photography.  They are modern, artistic and creative photographers that capture amazing moments.  Their photography just says it all!  Read up on our recent interview with them and don’t forget to check out their website.

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OOTTUM Fine Photography is a boutique wedding photography husband-wife team based in Toronto but also serves international clients who seek a personal experience and covet a soulful, intimate and modern collection of images that will help them remember all of the tiny and grand moments of their day. OOTTUM is run by Joti who is the primary photographer, creative lead and owner of the business and Jay is her second-shooter husband who also lends a creative eye. Together they create the perfect balance of a dreamer and a realist as your creative team.

What inspired you to get into photography?

I have been an artist for as long as I can remember. I went to a high school that specialized in the arts and this is where I picked up my dad’s Minolta for the first time and began to shoot black & white film and develop my own photos in the dark room. There was something so magical about the slowness and anticipation of an image you took a few days ago revealing itself in the developers and washes. I had indeed caught the photography bug and soon transitioned to digital which had it’s own mystique. Despite how quickly you could see an image on the back of a camera screen, I was still able to apply the same slowness I had learned to love about photography. It was more about waiting for and savouring the moment. I ended up going to OCAD University for environmental design (which is the study of architecture) after switching my major a couple times, so it was here where I had learned to appreciate balance, spacial relations and truly create rich spaces by understanding the environments we live in. I had been practicing photography throughout my entire university career and learned how the light would change and bend shadows at different times of the day and in different seasons. I also had a deep understanding of how the scale of a human being can drastically change the feel of a space by seeing it in context of how a space is to be used or interacted with. While I was in my ‘so-called’ third year of university, my cousin asked me to photograph her engagement shoot. I always like to project a little soul into my work so I asked some really personal questions and I tried to include as much of their story in the shoot. We spent a day together photographing them at a relaxed pace and it has been one of my favourite memories as a photographer. They had images on rotation at their wedding reception and soon after, I started to receive calls about doing other shoots. When I finished my education, I decided to set up my photography practice full time and haven’t looked back!

What is the meaning of OOTTUM and how did you come up with the name.

I always knew that if I were to create a practice of my own that it should center around something that was meaningful to me and would also be something that my clients could relate to. I’m in the business of love and so for me, this translates to that indescribable, heart-thumping interaction between two souls. Jay proposed to me on top of a mountain in Queenstown, New Zealand. This is where we both felt the most elevated, not only literally, but in all parts of our souls. OOTTUM means to ‘elevate and to dignify’ in sanskrit and this is how we came up with the name of our boutique photography business.

What is your style of shooting pictures?

We shoot in a very journalistic manner where our primary focus is on two things: real emotions and environments. A lot of this stems from my architectural background and so we always try to capture our couples in the context and spirit of the location they chose to get married. It really comes down to trust whenever we shoot. All of the couples who choose to work with us know that we love to spend our time with them and so the expectations are always laid out beforehand so they know how to get the best from us. We throw in a little bit of editorial-style in the mix when we do the couples portraits because we love how fashion-forward our couples are. This allows our couples to break from the formalities and have a little fun, but for the most part we shoot very journalistic and rarely get in the way of what’s truly happening throughout the day. Capturing ‘Your Day’ as it unfolds…unscripted.

What are your favourite pictures to take?

This is a tough question because there are many things that happen throughout a wedding day, however there are three very distinct moments we love to photograph. First of all, Jay and I love taking photos of the couple preparing for their day. It’s usually in the wee hours of the morning, where they’re both calm but slightly nervous and anxious. There’s a transition happening. They’re still themselves, but become more confident as they slowly start to put on each piece of clothing that makes them feel more and more like their wedding day is actually happening. Our second favourite time to shoot is during the actual ceremony. We love it when the couple catches glimpses of each other and interacts with the priest or officiant. This is also the best time to capture the reactions of the guests who are sharing the moment with them too. And finally, our most coveted photos to take is when we are alone with the couple for their mini-shoot. During this time we are privileged to spend the moments directly after they recite their vows to each other and become an official couple before they spend time with their guests at their reception. They’re now married and get to spend this time together…with us capturing it all. We try to keep the energy relaxed but in a positive manner. It’s so important for us to capture the energy that our couples are feeling at this time because this is usually when they’re both at ease, floating on cloud nine and trust our vision; this is key for the magic to happen. We always jump up and do cheesy fist bumps when we find out that a couple wants to do a ‘First-Look’ before their ceremony. This is the time when a couple sees each other for the first time in a relaxed manner and all of their emotions come spilling out…we’ve had couples cry, laugh and just hold each other so tightly. These are the best moments! As you can see it’s difficult to choose, but sometimes the best moments happen when you least expect them to.

What do you want viewers to take from your work?

Soulful, intimate and modern are the words that I would love for viewers to see in our work. These words make up the foundation and core of what we do and what we believe in when producing work for our couples. Everyone has a story and each is different, so it’s important for us to build really close relationships with the pair that hires us so we can understand what they envision for their day and truly understand their relationship with each other and those closest to them. We all come from somewhere. Our families have rich histories that sometimes can only be told in images because our loved ones are no longer present to tell it themselves. We hold on to artifacts tightly as fragments in time and space, of places we’ve never been to or could never imagine because they no longer exist. We are tellers of stories and we truly want to be the ones to capture the stories you share with your grandchildren and hope they’ll be able to hold these memories in their hands and close to their hearts. We try to keep it as real as possible and love it when people see value in what we do not only now, but for generations to come.

What do you advise people to look for when inquiring for a photographer for their next event?

Here’s 7 pieces of advice that are quite important to both the couple and the photographer who is being hired:

1. Choosing The Style Of Photography You Love

Do your research and figure out what type of photography style you love! This is extremely important because there are a lot of photographers out there who have differing styles and so it would be tough for a photographer to be approached by a couple who makes a lot of requests that do not necessarily fit into their style. Some shoot differently than others and some do light post-processing (editing) and only adjust for colour and lighting while others do a lot more tweaking and use various filters. It’s important to understand what kind of images you would like to see in your own wedding album while still reminding yourself that your wedding will be different, because no two weddings are ever alike.

2. This Photographer Has An Amazing Portfolio. I Should Book Them, Right?!

While, this is a good indication of their style and the photographer’s favourite images, it’s always a good idea to take a look at their journal or blog to see if you can see a full collection or at least a lot of photos from some of the weddings they’ve captured. This is important so you can see a full body of work and see if you like how they’ve captured various parts of the day. If the photographer hosts slideshows of their work on their website or on a site like vimeo, then that will give you a greater sense of how they shoot and capture the story of that day. This is one thing we at OOTTUM Fine Photography do for each of our clients because it’s much easier to share your day as a story than simply flipping through a gallery online. You can check them out here if you like: http://www.oottum.com/slideshows/

3. Know Your Exact Dates & Book Your Venue First

This is key as it’s very important to find out if the photography team you desire to work with is available for your date(s). Each couple chooses to plan their wedding with different timelines, however we usually recommend that you book your photographer at least 7 months to 1 year before your actual event(s). A lot of photographers get booked up quite early during the busy summer months, but you’ll be surprised to hear that a lot of photographers are now being booked as early as February and as late as November as couples are taking advantage of the off-season venue rates. Too many times we’ve had inquiries by couples who haven’t set a date and when they’re ready to book us, they find out that we’re already booked. To avoid disappoint, always have at least your date booked. It’s only fair to a photographer to hold a date with a deposit and a signed contract since most photographers work on a first-come, first-served basis.

4. Book A Decent Photographer

I know this may sound blunt, but it’s important to book a photographer who has an understanding about the flow and demands of a wedding day. Too many times I’ve come across old friends and other people who wish they had invested a little more on a photographer and less, say for example, on their dress. If the fee sounds too good to be true, then it probably is. If we stick with the dress example, an experienced and passionate photographer can make a less expensive dress look amazing, while someone who simply has a nice camera may not have the skills to make even the most expensive dress look as great as it costs. I did a styled shoot a little while back and made this dress for a mere $60 and look how this shoot turned out: http://www.oottum.com/the-woodsy-winter-styled-shoot-toronto-wedding-photographer/ This is not to say that a new photographer may not be super-talented, because everyone starts somewhere, but chances are, you’ll find that working with someone who is experienced will know how to pose you perfectly, find the best light and is able to communicate with you throughout the wedding process.

5. Chemistry With Your Photographer

Most photographers are in this industry because we love what we do. Once you’ve narrowed down your photographer choices, find out which one you’ll get along with the most. Always meet in person or at least do a Skype meeting if you are a significant distance apart. Ask how many weddings they shoot per year and if the photographer(s) you’re consulting with will actually be the ones to shoot your wedding. Some larger studios shoot a lot of weddings per year (often at times 2 or 3 weddings a weekend) and so you may be photographed by someone different who may also have a different shooting style. Our boutique studio only takes on a small number of commissions a year and we do this intentionally. We prefer to offer a personal experience and give necessary attention throughout the entire wedding planning process instead of just meeting at the initial meeting and showing up on your wedding day. We usually meet with our couples a number of times and even get to know their family members.

6. Do An Engagement Shoot

Make sure you do an engagement shoot with your photographer. This will allow you to get a little taste of what your chemistry will be like working with your photographer on the day of the wedding. You’ll get a little practice being in front of the camera and have an understanding of what’s expected of you on the wedding day and as a bonus, you’ll get some great photographs of you as a couple. Jay and I spend a day with our couples during this type of shoot so we can really get to know our couples and include personal details and complimentary styling to help unify their shoot! These are best type of sessions because it gives the couple a time-out from wedding planning and includes a lot of hand-holding, embracing and kissing (what groom would say no to spending time with his woman)! What’s not to love about an engagement shoot?!

7. Timing and Trust

Be realistic of the time you plan on your wedding day. Often times, couples cram a lot into one day and change their attire at least once and will want a portrait session with each costume change and expect a lot in very little time. It’s important to be mindful about how long each change will take, including any hair/make-up changes because this can impede your time with your photographer quite heavily. It’s important to set aside as much time as possible for your portrait sessions with your photographer because the best results always happen when you put in the time. Trusting your photographer, especially when they take you somewhere a little off-the-cusp or a little different may result in some of the best photos. 99% of the time when a couple trusts our vision and truly cares about their time with us, is when we can be our most creative and produce the most amazing images.

There are so many more tips and pieces of advice I could share, but these are by far the most important to us at OOTTUM Fine Photography. We try not to rush things because in a world that is moving too quickly, we try to slow things down a little and hold on to the idea that quality can’t be rushed. We know your story will be there; all of the details, characters, emotions and beauty wrapped into your day. We don’t have to tell people what to do or where to look. We won’t ask your family to hug you before you leave the house, because chances are, they’ll do it anyways, and if they do, we’ll be there to try and capture it – unscripted. We understand that weddings have structure, but we also know that great things happen when they are unplanned; spontaneous, wonderful things. We simply try to capture what happens as they happen before our lenses.

As we take photographs, Jay and I savour the little things. We savour the smiles you give each other. We savour your fleeting moments. We savour each breath at a time. This is how I feel OOTTUM Fine Photography tell stories.

Thank you Anchal and the rest of The Ultimate Affair team for allowing us to share our passion with you and your readers!

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Online Shoppers Beware

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Online shopping is the new phenomenon and allows brides and guests all over the world to get items they wouldn’t normally have access to where they currently are. For South Asian brides, Indian clothing locally can cost anywhere from 3-5 times the actual price that it sells for in India itself – the markup is unbelievable! And that is why many of us are resorting to online shopping from the endless number of sites that are now popping up everywhere on the internet. The question is, are they reliable? Can we trust someone to tailor suits to our liking from across the world without meeting or speaking with them?

The answer: There are very few vendors in the South Asian India market that you can trust to do a good job, so our recommendation is to Be Careful!

Here are our tips on how to be vigilant when choosing an online vendor in India to shop from:

-Give yourself ample time – it can take weeks and even months in some cases for you to receive your order as very few deliver in a timely manner

-Shipping from India should only take 1-2 weeks at maximum; anyone who tells you otherwise is not being honest

-If you experiment with a new site, order an inexpensive item first to see what the quality and service is like

-In most cases, you will have better luck with larger and well-known department store brands

-Beware of imitation brands, there are a countless number of them so do your research to verify that you are dealing with the real McCoy

-Utilize vendors your friends and families recommend first before you attempt to take on a vendor that is new to you

-Look for reviews on the vendors before you place your order. If people have had bad experiences, chances are that you will find out about them easily if you do a simple google search

-Call the contact number and speak to the individual. Having a telephone conversation can help you gage whether the person on the other end is worth trusting or even comprehending what you are looking for in your outfits

-Do not be fooled by price! If the deal is too good to be true, chance are that it is.

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An example of a vendor to stay away from is Kaur’s Designer Boutique by Sawrenjit Kaur – this women has copied the name of another reputable and higher priced boutique and straight-up lies to you. She requires you to send the money in advance to her, delays shipping for weeks on end and the best part is that when the outfits arrive, not only is the sizing off of what you sent – some items are things that do not resemble the original order at all!!!! We speak from personal experience on this one – and when it was addressed with her, she completely ignored the complaint and has been avoiding us since. Stay far, far away from this one as it will only waste your time, precious energy and oh yes, MONEY!

Stay stress free and actually be a part of your wedding!

The best wedding advice always comes from an experienced bride! Meet our guest blogger Priyanka who had the most phenomenal destination wedding in India.  Read up on how she kept her wedding stress-free!

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In the weeks and days leading up to my wedding, I had lots of friends wishing me well and giving me the same piece of advice: just enjoy yourself, it goes by so fast! Perhaps I was silly not to ask, but nobody told me HOW to do that- just that I should. I didn’t come up with a plan ahead of time, but here are a few things that helped me be totally-stress free, and very present during our three-day destination wedding celebration (which was less month ago, so TRUST ME):

Get yourself a wedding planner

Yes, it costs money. But it’s probably the most well-spent money in your whole wedding. If it leaves you stress free, how could it not be worth it? Communicate frequently and articulate your ideas well during the planning process. But on the days of the wedding, and ideally even 2-5 days before, let go and leave it to them. Delegating tasks to family and friends is great, and gets people involved, but remember, they also want to be a part of the wedding. Having a planner who is not emotionally invested is extremely useful. Delegate only to family and friends who have few or no other responsibilities – no cooking to care of, no babies to feed.

Just let go

Trust me when I say you should trust yourself. You have spent a lot of energy and time planning – whether 6 months (like me) or 18 months, planning a wedding is consuming. But trust that you have done a good job and hand it all over a few days before, to the planner. Do your part by making sure they have all of the information they will need, and know all of the people who might be involved (your mum for rituals, the uncle with all the vendors’ cheques). Worrying about details a few days before the wedding is pointless – there will be very little you can change anyway, and you will cause yourself unnecessary stress. If you’re having to fight your mum about something at this point – stop. She’s going to get it her way. The sooner you accept that, the faster you can move on, and the more relaxed you can be. When your cousin comes asking you a question about what time the photographer is supposed to arrive, point her to your planner and move forward. Don’t worry about finding her the planner yourself. 

Stay hydrated

Every time I sat to get my makeup done, I had a bottle of water with me, which I sipped throughout my getting ready time. It helped keep my skin looking fresh, I didn’t feel or look tired, and it made me feel in control. You’ll be running around at all other times, so use your getting ready time to hydrate (any other time is a bonus!) Oh and of course when you’re sipping on those adult beverages, make sure to balance with some water too, especially at pre-wedding functions. Yes, you want to have a great time tonight, but you also want to wake up looking and feeling refreshed for the next day’s events.

Surround yourself with positive energy

I got married in India, and three of my best friends flew across the world to be there for my big day. I was so worried that I wouldn’t be able to spend time with them because we all know you get pulled in 10 different directions as a bride. I had them (and no one else) hang out with me while I got my makeup done, and it was the best time we spent together! That way I didn’t feel guilty if I only saw them briefly at the events, but more importantly, they were just so genuinely happy to be there for me, their positivity was contagious and relaxing. I just enjoyed their company, recounted old embarrassing stories and forgot about everything else wedding-related. Now this also worked for me because I had a huge room, a destination wedding, and number 1 above all else – a wedding planner. I do also recognize that for many brides, having too many people around can be overwhelming and frustrating, so if that’s your position, make it known. Do not hesitate to tell people that you just need some alone- time as you get ready. They will either understand and respect you, or be upset, but guess what? You’ll be relaxed! The bottom line, STAY POSTIVE

Eat!

At our cocktail party to celebrate our engagement we didn’t have a single bite to eat and felt awful every time someone told us how amazing the food was. We decided that at the wedding, we were going to taste everything, even if just one bite, and am I glad we did! In our case, we were lucky to have waiters bringing us everything, but find a friend, uncle or cousin to bring you a little bit of everything. You’ll be happy you did – after all, you spent so much time doing tastings and debating the menu. At our reception people kept calling us, and I politely said, “We just sat down to eat, give us a few minutes we will join you right away.” It might feel like you are missing out, or some might even consider it rude, but not only are you enjoying the good food, you are also giving yourself much-needed energy and a moment to breathe. Sitting and eating gave us a moment to look around, appreciate the venue, admire the décor, notice the funny dancing, comment on the gorgeous outfits, and have a moment together. It allowed us to just be present, and “enjoy ourselves” as everyone had recommended. So many pros to just getting a little bit of food in your belly!

Pick a time to greet your guests

Greeting your guests at some point in your wedding is important. I have resented many couples for not doing so at their weddings. While I understand it’s difficult, I can guarantee it’s not impossible. It gets tricky when dad wants to introduce you to his business partner, and mum wants you to meet her cousin thrice removed and your friends are calling you for shots. You feel like you saw everyone but met no one. And there’s no avoiding this. But, if you designate a time or event – perhaps welcoming everyone at the pre-wedding event or going around to tables during the dinner- whatever works for you and your event, the less resentful you’ll be, and the more time you’ll have to go take those group shots and pictures. We greeted everyone as they arrived at the Garba (second day of pre-events), which totally freed us up the night of the reception.

Remember this is about you, your partner and your love. Not the white flowers that were supposed to be off-white.

Don’t focus so much on the flowers being the wrong color, or the fabric being draped wrong, that you lose the big picture. Yes, I definitely sat in my mandap and thought, we discussed roses, where are they? But, I just smiled and looked at my groom and thought, wow, we have worked eight years to get to this day, who cares about the roses! It’s definitely frustrating because you have explained it 3 times and had them write it and explain it back. Don’t let the frustrations get the better of you during the important moments (go back and discuss with your vendors after the wedding – or you’ll be over it and it won’t matter anymore). A wedding is a day, but a marriage is a lifetime. Remember that as you plan and as you go through celebrations. Yes, you want it to be beautiful, but you don’t want to have huge fights in the process, or be upset on the day of your wedding for something you KNOW is truly insignificant in the bigger picture.

Guest Blogger

Priyanka

Photograph: OOTTUM FINE PHOTOGRAPHY

Get Fit for the Big Day!

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Want to losing those last few pounds to get that perfect fit into your dress or just feeling great about how you look? Here are some top tips to help you get in shape for your wedding day.

  1. Start your plan early- whether it be improving your diet or workout program, on average it takes 6-8 weeks to see a visible change.
  2. Modify your diet- 80% of weight loss come from what we eat. Introduce more fruits and vegetables while reducing processed foods. Thinking you have to go on a fast isn’t the way to go. Reduce portion sizes and go for healthy snacks in between meals.
  3. Exercise- get as active as you can. Looking for a toned body? Increase your strength training because cardio alone won’t get you there. If you’re unsure of what to do or feel like the gym is a bit intimidating try joining a class that interests you.
  4. Keep hydrated- with an increase of exercise your body is going to crave for more water. Make water more interesting by putting a slice of lemon or cucumber into your water bottle to add some natural flavour.
  5. Make a realistic goal- with a busy lifestyle it may seem overwhelming to implement changes to your schedule. Make time for yourself, try making small changes at first so you’re more likely to stick to them. For help with motivation get a family member, friend, or soon to be hubby to do this lifestyle change with you.

He is getting married too!

Involving the Groom in the Wedding Planning!

groom1A bride’s big day is inevitably something she has dreamed about since she was a little girl. Her daydreams about her perfect dress, the song she will dance to at her wedding, and the girls who will make up her bridal party, have surely been features of her wedding that she has been planning in her mind years before she even met the man of her dreams! All too often, without being conscious of it, these pre-set visions of what her big day will look like leave little room for the groom’s vision of the big day!

Sometimes a bride-to-be has to make a conscious effort to ensure that her vision of the big day includes the ideas and dreams of not only herself, but her future husband as well! Below are some tips a bride-to-be can use to ensure that her groom is involved in the wedding process.

Have a chat!

While it sounds like we are stating the obvious with this tip, all too often we are not really communicating as clearly and effectively as we think we are. An easy way to get the groom feeling as though he is involved is by having a discussion about what the two of you envision for your big day. You might be surprised to hear what he looks forward to, or is nervous about!

Incorporate his interests

Try to look for ways to incorporate your partner’s interests and passions. Is he a big golfer? Perhaps you can incorporate this side of him by holding your wedding reception on a golf course! Another way to incorporate the interests of your groom-to-be is by using party favours that reflect his hobbies. Is he an avid wine drinker? Hand out personalized corkscrews as party favours to your wedding guests!

It is also very important to be aware of any family or cultural traditions his family practices. Incorporating these practices into the wedding ceremony and reception will ensure that not only your groom feels included, but that his family feels heard and respected!

Let go!

As women, we know what we want, and we work hard to get it! We meticulously plan details and earnestly watch our plans play out with the hopes that everything will work exactly as we wanted. Sometimes, however, we need to let go of the need to plan everything down to the last detail. Let go of some of the control, and let your groom take the reigns!

Be transparent and clear about what you want

Finally, it is crucial to be open and clear about what it is you want. Put it all out on the table. Have a discussion with your partner about what things are most important to you. Agree on must-haves before you begin your planning to ensure that both of your priorities are met.

Winter Weddings!

If you live in the GTA and you’re planning your big day, why not take advantage of the season that takes up most of the year? I’m talking about the winter season! From sparkle, to bluey hues, to a cozy theme, there are an endless number of ideas for you to choose from. We have come up with our Top 5 list of winter wedding theme ideas, in no particular order:

  • Blue and white colours: Blue and white just scream “cool” and using blue lighting to light up a white room would bring your winter theme to life.

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  • A fireplace can be used at the venue for your winter wedding. It will look great in pictures and will keep your guests warm and cozy. Might I mention the romance factor?

 

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  • Sparkle, sparkle, sparkle!!

 

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  • Snow angels and a snowy photoshoot – need I say more??

 

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  • Santa-inspired wedding: A plus with this theme is the fact that the young children at your reception can visit Santa Clause.

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Happy Winter Weddings!!!

Stop talking and make an information board!

“What time do we have to be there?” “Where is it again?” “How long is it until?”  Ever wonder why you put so much effort into creating an invitation for guests when most of the answers are right there? Don’t get me wrong, I am sure I have done this many times, but after hosting an event you realize how frustrating those questions can be.

Stop repeating yourself and create an information board!  This board will save you those countless times where you reiterate information over and over again.

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An information board can give a breakdown to all the events and avoids miscommunication from occurring. I used a sturdy foam board from Dollarama to be able to staple things to it, but it is totally up to you.  You can include as much detail as you would like as in the time of departure, when the hairdresser will be arriving for the guests, what time the event is scheduled for and etc.

If you would like to get more creative, I added an envelope on my information board with printouts regarding directions/addresses to the venues.  I also added little reminders for family members and distributed some duties to cousins. Then, I just got happy go lucky and added a picture to jazz it up!

Put this information board in an area that is easily visible to anyone entering or leaving the house.  It is a handy thing to make and gives your voice some rest.  I would highly recommend this for your upcoming wedding, stop worrying about logistics and enjoy your special day!

 

Dot your i’s and cross your t’s – Even with your vendors!

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We all speak often about how essential effective communication is in our day to day lives – at work, with family/friends and especially in our relationships. But when it comes to weddings, for some reason that notion goes right out the door and that’s the last place it should be! If you want your wedding or special event to end up the way you’ve envisioned it, the only way to make it happen is if you clearly communicate your expectations with ALL your vendors ahead of time. And you know what, over communicate it – repeat yourself several times (3 is usually the magic number) so that everyone understands the vision and is aligned. “But the vendors I’ve hired are the best in the industry and know what they are doing because it’s all they do.” Right??? Wrong. Yes, your vendors may be experienced professionals, but they may have a way of doing things that differ from your expectations. Let’s take photography for example – you may assume that photographers will take lots of pictures of your guests along with capturing your special moments, but in many instances this will not happen. Given how big some weddings get, most photographers forfeit the guests and focus their attention on the newly wedded couple and immediate family. So if you value pictures of old friends that you haven’t seen in years or even a picture of every table during your reception – tell your photographers and videographers to capture those moments and those people or come up with a way to ensure you get these people captured somehow (ie. celebrity wall, photo booths, etc.). Memories may last forever… well sometimes… – but let’s face it, video/pictures last a very long time too ;).

Along with over communicating, it’s essential to write EVERYTHING down. Document every conversation with your vendors (with dates and times) so that you can refer to your notes on their commitments when needed. Some will promise many things to you verbally just so that they can get you to sign on the dotted line, or may just simply forget some details of the many client conversations they have – so it’s important for you to be vigilant and assertive to get what you want.

It’s important to remember that all vendors, no matter who they are, need to be pointed in the right direction so that they can meet (and hopefully exceed) your expectations on your special day – and although they may not want your input on every little detail, make sure you give it so that you get the opportunity to see your vision unfold right before you.

Vendor Spotlight: Kimi Arya

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When people are looking for vendors, it’s important to choose someone who has a true desire for the work regardless for how long they may have been in the business. Born with a passion for design, Kimi Arya is a fresh new face to the wedding industry. Graduating from OCADU, the largest and most comprehensive art, design and media university in Canada1, Kimi has an extensive degree and background in interior design. Having experience with various cultures and events, she has a flare for fusion occasions. Collaborating with different wedding planners, Kimi has always delivered unique requests and strives to present only her finest work. From invitations, centerpieces, backdrops and day of stationery, she is a hands-on individual who expresses her mature and outgoing personality through her work.

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For contact information or to view her portfolio, please visit www.kimiarya.com                                      1. http://www.ocadu.ca/about

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